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She is sleepy every morning as she trudges off to school. She is tired from dance the night before and often stays up to midnight to finish homework. As a parent I've questioned why are we still doing dance when it leaves very little time for homework yet it is her absolute JOY. How can I take that away from her? I can't. So we struggle through and she worries about if she'll make it in college based on her high school experience. She gets little help from school counselors and her teachers. She's smart, yet has to work hard, and she questions her ability all the time. Sometimes when she takes a test (1-4 performance-based grade) and doesn't do well she has nowhere to turn. The class just moves on except technically they are supposed to reteach if kids are struggling. I want her to be able to retake a test to help her learn more. I want her teachers to reach out and see her even if she is the only one struggling with concepts. Our system at least in high school fails in this. She feels horrible when she doesn't succeed and while I know the real world is often dog eat dog most jobs you learn as you go and you keep moving forward. We should allow failures to blossom into growth in all levels of education.
I am aware in all this that technology plays a role in her life and is often a HUGE hindrance in getting things accomplished. She can access homework on her phone and uses it for flashcards and learning apps like Quizlet but often that leads to checking IG, watching SnapChat videos from friends, the list is endless. After a recent conversation she deleted some of her time-wasting apps, which made her happy; to be pro-active but then said she filled that time with dancing around the house instead of more homework! I wish I had the answer or magical words to help. I don't. Do you?
Teachers and students of today have a mixed bag of trouble and triumph. I hope she (and I) can make it through this year and that she will flourish in college. I want to enjoy this last year with her not spend every day helping her work out her frustrations and encouraging confidence in herself.